“There is no healing. There is only letting go.”
-Carl Jung
As time passes, do wounds truly heal?
The only guarantee in connecting with others is eventual grief.
A “black-pilled” way of looking at that would be:
Every relationship we’ll ever have ends in either death or heartbreak. Regardless, we’re left with grief. So what’s the point?
We all inherently know the truth of the above statement, yet, it never stops us from forming new connections.
Love is ALWAYS worth the fateful ending of grief.
Without love, life would be meaningless.
Therefore, grief must also be viewed as one of life’s most necessary experiences.
So how does one mitigate it?
Time does not heal wounds.
The scars of pains past will always serve as a reminder.
Eventually, they may come to serve as more of a lesson or story, but when one goes deep enough into their heart, the pain of grief can still be felt.
Grief, therefore, is fundamentally a refusal to accept what happened.
There’s a part of still hanging on to what was.
Our identity can become interlinked into the story created with another person.
When that connection is severed, whether it’s heartbreak or death, we hold on to the memories as a way of mourning.
Moving on requires us to let go of who came to be with that other person.
Like the Phoenix, we must then be born anew.
The purest antidote to grief is acceptance, a letting go of the need to change what’s out of your control.
You let go by accepting reality without wishing it were different or conspiring against the universe.
You are never going to put an end to suffering, grief, or other “negative” aspects that make up the shadows of the human experience.
The Buddha did not end suffering, but became enlightened when he accepted its inevitability and place in the world.
Naive ambition will lead you to try and conquer the natural forces of the Universe, when the reality is you will continue to fall on your face until you accept them.
“Grief is love’s souvenier. It’s our proof that we once loved. Grief is the receipt we wave in the air that says to the world: Look! Love was once mine. I love well. Here is my proof that I paid the price.”
Never seek to avoid grief, as burying it only guarantees it will one day resurface.
Accept its presence and you will find the right time to fully let it go, being grateful for the lessons it brought you.
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